A major determining factor in any of our abilities to successfully negotiate challenges lies in our ability to mentally handle the stress involved with life. For much of our lives, we may find ourselves on autopilot, and depending on how well we have set up our autopilot we may or may not get to where we are going. For most of my adult life, my autopilot was a lot like the autopilot in the movie "Airplane" which kept deflating... I am seriously dating myself with that one but it made me laugh so I am leaving it in here. The point being, if we do not adequately take the time to take care of our selves, emotionally and physically, we are not going to be able to one, train our autopilot and two, deal with life's challenges in person when they come along.
Today, my ten-year-old son goes back to California for two weeks, before returning for the Summer. While I am excited for Summer to get here and continue the familial relationship we have set up for him here, I still get heartbroken when he leaves. This is especially true when we have made great strides in our relationship and more importantly in the way he approaches the world. I take a lot of pride in watching him grow up and become a caring and aware human being. I always feel like we lose a little progress whenever he leaves, so watching him get on the plane feels like watching a little of himself disappear. I know we will always get it back when he returns, but it never makes it any easier.
You may be asking yourself what this has to do with addiction and recovery. Well, as I sat here this morning thinking about what I wanted to write about, it occurred to me that I was struggling a little bit because I am a little preoccupied with my son's departure today, and I feel that I need to be present with the time I have before he leaves. With that said, I decided to hang up my blog writing hat, my podcast hat, and most of my other social media hats and just focus on the things that are really important to me. My family.
Selfcare is one of the most essential pieces of sobriety and recovery. If we are not taking care of our emotional and physical being, we risk losing the strength and courage necessary to take on the difficult tasks that accompany quitting addictions. I think this will certainly be a topic to come back to in the very near future.
Today, however, I am going to take care of some of my own emotional health by unplugging and spending some quality time with family. I hope you all have an amazing Saturday. I will inevitably return tomorrow and pick up where I am leaving off today.
Live light, live well, live sober.